Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Convert Truths

So apparently there's a blog carnival going on with the topic being Convert Truths. I've read through these blog postings and its amazing to see how many converts are going through exactly what I'm going through. I don't relate to the ones who've decided not to follow many islamic rules though and feel shunned. For me its the opposite..following has led to being shunned. I find it odd that people want to convert and then not follow the rules. Kind of makes me scratch my head and wonder why they converted. Its something you did willingly right or did you think you would remodel the religion? Even so read these accounts and realize we are all in this together. Some of them made me cry. Insha Allah a day will come when converts find thier place or reach a place where they are at peace with not finding it but feel they have a place with Allah.


  1. As salaam alaikum,

    Just know that you are not alone, sis. We are all feeling like this to a certain extent I think. I think it is part of the test. I came from a very supportive community especially after having babies to feeling like I am all alone as well. All we can really do is trust in Allah and know that this life will not last forever.

  2. Wa Alaikum Salaam

    Alhumdullilah you had support at one point. Yes this is a test. Alhumdullilah for the internet or imagine how isolated we would feel.

  3. As salaam alaikum,

    Oh that was from a nonMuslim alternative birthing community of which I am still part of to a certain extent. This was before I became Muslim. May Allah give the Muslims strength.

  4. Wa Alaikum salaam

    That's even more sad! At least some muslims have visited me when I had babies and some even brought food and cleaned up for me a bit. Didn't anyone at least do that for you? Mind you these people are not part of my life on a regular basis they only show up for births and deaths etc

  5. Salam alaykom,

    I never knew this problem existed until I heard it from you on MMC. Subhanallah, I guess I take my community and family close by for granted then. I wish there was a way I could reach out to a convert (or more) and help in any way. Mashallah we have MANY women associations in my area that I think it shouldn't exist but Allahu alem. I did meet a brand new Muslim in the masjid once and I was teaching her wudu and we exchanged emails so that I could teach her pray etc. I was very excited and happy but she would never reply to my emails :( Which was so sad, it really did put me down for a while but alhamdulillah, I still don't know what happened to her. Inshallah all is well with her and inshallah she stil DOES contact me one day, but I highly doubt it.

    May Allah reward all the lonely sisters out there, converts and born-Muslims, for your patience and you strive to continue pleasing Allah.

  6. Wa Alaikum salaam

    I wonder too why she didn't keep in contact with you. Perhaps you should have invited her over for tea and then taught her the prayers? A lot of things could have happened like she could have moved etc. Insha Allah another convert will cross your path and you'll know just what to do after listening to me whine this long, lol. Amin to your dua.

  7. Salamz,

    I did ask for her number (just easier I think) and told her I'd love to have her over for some girl-time (lol) and we can get to know each other and I can teach her and answer any of her questions. She was hestiant to give her number and I fully understand that so I didn't push it and she didn't have a car so I offered to pick her up (about 40 min away)and drop her off. She did tell me where she worked and I was thinking of popping in but then I think I'll seem like a stalker...O_O....lol.

    I think I am naturally like this and this happened ages b4 I came on MMC. If you have an opportunity to teach a new Muslim it is benefitting you more than hear IMO, if I teach a new Muslim how to pray, then for all her prayers I will get rewards and for all the surah's she reads that I thought her, then I will get rewards for that too so it really is an investment. I reckon, knowledgeable Muslims should be fighting for the attention of new Muslims.

    What a twisted world we live in :(

  8. Wa Alaikum salaam

    quote:I reckon, knowledgeable Muslims should be fighting for the attention of new Muslims.

    Yes you would think so eh? There are some muslims though that do rush to do these things and also be the first to give a prayer mat or a hijab or a jilbab too. Or offer books. They are few and far between but alhumdullilah they do exist. I know one mosque that has set up a partnership system,when someone converts they are paired up with a raised muslim so they can learn have friendship too. That mosque is more than an hour from me though.

  9. Salamz,

    Maybe you can start that in your area, if the demand calls for it. Inshallah you get rewards for your patience and strife.

  10. Wa alaikum Salaam

    People only convert in my area like once every 5 yrs or something. I tried to befriend a couple of them and they were avoiding me like the plague. It was so weird and it never happens in other cities. I think people at the mosque must have turned them against me because they don't like me. Allahu alim.