Thursday, September 16, 2010

Bad Childhood, Good Life

One thing that raised muslims generally can't relate to when it comes to converts is that many of them were raised poorly by not very loving parents. They can never understand why we are not constantly on each other's doorsteps. Whereas a raised muslim feels no qualms about calling or visiting their parents constantly and knows their parents will always recieve them with open arms a convert usually unless they are lucky and come from one of those good families will think twice. Islam fills a void in our life when we convert but like the book says adults that were raised poorly are always trying to make up for the love they never got from their parents. The book's advice is basically to acknowledge your pain but keep a safe distance from these parents but not necessarily cut them off (islam doesn't allow that anyway) but to try to concentrate on the good people in our lives now and in being good to people. Easier said than done. What's doubly hard for a convert is how people are so unkind to us which just brings back all those old feelings. Your own people hate you because you are muslim now and the raised muslims are indifferent or worse hostile to you because you are not from their country. But basically we have to get up and be good everyday despite the unkind behaviour of others. We have to fight the good fight and be the better person. Allah give us the strength. Amin.


  1. Salam ,
    How are you today ?

    You are not fair when saying this "muslims are indifferent or worse hostile to you because you are not from their country" :)

  2. Wa alaikum salaam


    This is the situation in Canada...99% of the immigrant muslims act this way. They only talk and socialize with people from their own country and forget about the converts. I wish it wasn't true but it is. The young people though that were born from the immigrants are wonderful and they mix with everyone.